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animus_network2012-01-03 01:55 pm
guiltapalooza) wrote in animus_network2012-01-03 01:55 pm
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[002 ★ text ★ crazy backdated to before the moving event]
Someone told me that all of the trolls are having trouble sleeping here. I think I can help.
I've made sleep satchets before, these little things that you put under your pillow and guarantee pleasant dreams for a couple months before they run out. The problem is that I only came with so many spell ingredients in my trunk, so unless I can find a way to replace some of this stuff, I can't make these forever.
Not that asking this question will necessarily result in anything resembling the truth, but: does anyone need one more than anyone else?
Asking all this out of the goodness of my heart and preferential treatment, I promise.[filtered from
wwaterboy]And now to the other part of this post. Also to trolls, sorry. If someone could explain how this matesprit thing actually compares with the human concept of romance, that would be seriously of the good, because I don't know what I'm doing here and I think I need more than the ten second summary if I am going to be doing this.
Which, let me repeat, since I don't know what I'm doing, no judging or yelling at me! I will yell back. That is so not what I need right now. I'm trying to do the right thing and honor my feelings and not stay all hung up on people that have died, which is difficult! But I've never done this "oh, and he also hatesexes someone regularly, but that's not cheating" concept before, and I want to get it right.
It seems bitchy to ask him to explain this stuff to me himself, so... advice. Please? And if you could honor the incredibly obvious filter, that would be great. Don't make me go hacker on you.
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pretty much my liife ii2 an unendiing hell.
but whatever, ii'm u2ed two iit.
2ure ii gue22, how long do they la2t?
wow.
ii'm actually iimpre22ed.
apparently not beiing an entiitled hiighblood a22hole ii2 good for hiim.
ii 2hould clue iin my eriidan.
oh, you liive wiith aa?
hang on, what do you mean we're diifferent people?
aa'2 my mate2priit!
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Ouch. Speaking as someone that grew up on top of a portal to hell, I actually have an idea of what that would be like. You have my sympathy. They last for a couple months each; once you can't smell the lavender anymore, you know it's defunct.
It's amazing what not being an oppressive racist does for your personality.
No, I mean, the Eridan I keep referring to, you're his kismesis -- the you where he's from. And you guys seem pretty serious, from what he's said. But you're obviously not him, especially if you're Aradia's age.
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maybe you can a2k for more 2pell component2.
that'2 for 2ure.
oh, okay, ii get you.
ii'm the hiighblood eriidan'2 kii2me2ii2, and aradiia'2 mate2priit.
ii'm no hiighblood my2elf, but ii've met the other me who ii2.
doe2n't 2urprii2e me that the other me and the other hiim are kii2me2e2, two.
we almo2t 2eem made two hate each other.
uh.
don't tell hiim ii 2aiid that, hii2 ego doe2n't need 2welliing.
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Really?? How often does that happen? What do I do?
[Willow had really expected jealousy to be more of a thing here, even in this weird convoluted doubles situation, but honestly? This was just cute.]Would you find it awful if I said that that was adorable? Cause it kinda is. But I won't tell him, I promise.
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ii heard tavro2 a2ked for a ramp becau2e he couldn't naviigate the 2taiir2 on hii2 four-wheel deviice and then we got a ramp.
um...
look the thiing you human2 don't get ii2 that two troll2, hate ii2 love, two.
ii mean, eriidan and ii are iimportant two each other.
iit'2 ju2t that beiing wiith eriidan make2 me want two riip hii2 face off half the tiime.
that'2 a pa22iionate feeling, ju2t liike piity.
iit'2 just a diifferent feeliing.
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Wow, handicap accessibility concerned tower administrators. I'm gonna have to look into this suggestion box. Thanks!
Oh no, I get that, don't worry. I don't want that for myself and I don't totally understand it, but I can definitely tell that just because it's about hate doesn't mean you aren't important to each other. He was really concerned about being a good kismesis for other-you.
That's why I was asking for advice-- I don't know how this is supposed to work. How does it not interfere with you having a matesprit, too?
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Let me put it this way: humans are basically really selfish. We want the person we're with to be thinking about us and no one else. We want them to be our everything.
That's the ideal, but that's how it's always been for me. So I'm trying to understand.
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you thiink troll2 aren't 2elfii2h?
we practiically wrote the book.
but the emotiion2 are very diifferent, are you 2ayiing that you only have one relatiion2hiip at a tiime, ever? ii know you don't becau2e you have that friiend dii2ea2e and have biilliion2 of the thiing2!
ii piity aradiia and hate eriidan.
when ii'm wiith eriidan ii don't go worryiing about aa and thiinkiing about her, ii'm focu22ed on my relatiion2hiip wiith the fiinface.
but he ha2 no riight two iinterfere when ii'm wiith aa, eiither, that'd be ju2t wrong.
and piityiing aa doe2n't affect how ii feel about eriidan 2o iit'2 completely unrelated!
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Friends are different. You don't sleep with friends! Well, you can, but that's not-- I'm just going to spare you the friendship lecture, okay?
I think I get what you're saying, anyway. They're just different types of relationships. So is there a protocol for how you act around your matesprit's kismesis? Are you supposed to hate them, too, or something?
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there'2 no protocol, and you don't have two hate hiim, ju2t try not two 2tart au2piitiicii2iing or you'll wiind up iin a me22.
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It's just totally different. Friends are always platonic, and when they aren't platonic anymore, it's a big problem. Besides, I think you got the wrong impression about the "friendship disease". If you think there's never jealousy over friend-cheating, you are oh so wrong. Just because we don't slap 'em and declare one person our moirail doesn't mean we don't feel like they are. We just don't use that word.
Wait, what's auspiticising? [That word is really hard to decipher in your quirk, thanks, Sollux.]
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iif you can have multiiple friiend2 even wiith jealou2y exii2tiing, then why can't you be mate2priit2 wiith a troll who ha2 a kii2me2ii2?
2ure 2ometiime2 you miight feel jealou2, but ju2t becau2e he'2 got 2omeone two hate doe2n't mean he piitiie2 you any le22.
2o you get over iit and get extra 2appy when you 2ee hiim agaiin, and iif he doe2n't giive you tiime becau2e he'2 2pendiing two much tiime on hii2 hate date2, you tell hiim you're feeliing iignored.
iit'2 the fourth quadrant you diidn't mentiion.
an au2piitiice mediiate2 between two troll2 who hate each other, u2ually two *prevente* black cheatiing.
2o no meddliing iin the kii2me22iitude.
they get two hate each other iin whatever way they want, and you ju2t have two tru2t that eriidan won't get culled by hii2 2ollux.
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You're not supposed to have one friend, but you're supposed to have one significant other. It doesn't work out the same.
I'm not saying I can't be just because he has a kismesis, and I don't want to meddle! This is me, not meddling, asking questions so I don't mess things up for him. That's the opposite of what I want. I'm trying to deal with this before it is an issue, so that I don't sign on for something I didn't expect.
But I definitely don't want to interfere. You don't know how awful I'd feel if I came between anyone. I've done that before and I never want a repeat.
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you're talkiing about datiing a troll 2o iit'2 diifferent.
troll2 are 2uppo2ed two have four quadrant2 iif they can pull iit off.
and iif we don't have the concupii2cent one2 we'll get culled 2ooner or later.
iif we don't have at lea2t a moiiraiil we'll get two viiolent.
2o long a2 you don't iinterfere, you won't fuck thiing2 up wiith hii2 other quadrant2.
you can liike them or not, or even not talk two them at all.
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I'm saying that I'm supposed to, not that he is. I know that it's different for all of you, and it's not like I'm not used to other species having different standards for this. It was just never something I got involved in. I'm trying to adjust!
[She tries to tone down the defensiveness, because she really is grateful for all of this advice.]Okay, I can do that. I can really do that.
Thank you.
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or iif you've got two date a troll, date 2omeone wiith fewer quadrant2 fiilled, and two be hone2t ii doubt that'2 realii2tiic.
no problem, wiillow.
good luck, ii gue22.
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I can tell you from experience that me trying to ignore how I feel about someone just ends with major badness. We'll see how this goes. If Xander can date a vengeance demon that spent a thousand years enacting gruesome, creative violence on cheating men, I can totally handle this.
You know, Aradia was right. You are a nice guy.
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2ure ii am, u2ually.
mo2tly.
diid you doubt her?
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Yup. We turned her human, too, actually, so it was a mess.
[Shamelessly flattering? Absolutely. Willow could never turn up an opportunity to pass along a compliment.]Mostly is what counts, and I obviously couldn't doubt her with the sort of expression she had when she was talking about you.
[Locked] He's blushing so yellow right now
what 2ort of expre22iion?
[Locked] ahaha exactly what she was going for
The sort that said she's completely hung up on you. You might say there was blushing.[Locked] He's a 2ucker
2he blu2hed?
[Locked] he's in good company lmfao
Absolutely positively. I asked her about you and only good things were said.[Locked]
thank2.
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